As I sit here and reflect on the past year, I can’t help but think how grateful I am for everything that has happened:
- Moved back to Ohio
- Discovered Eckhart Tolle, The Secret & A Course in Miracles – all completely changing my life
- Visited Harry Potter World – on my bucket list!
- Ran a half marathon (and 5K, 5 miler, 1/4 marathon, 10K, 10 miler) – on my bucket list!
- completed a few whole30’s (whole9life.com)
- Attended a transformational event by Kyle Cease in CA
- Started a new job at an awesome company
- moved in with my boyfriend after 3 years of long distance
- bought a new car
There were tough times, yes, but they were good, because they taught me lessons:
- How to change my thoughts and judgements towards others, towards situations and to take the good out of them
- To embrace everything that happens in my life, with love, and with patience
- To always, always look inside when you feel any negative emotion towards someone, because that is a huge indicator of what you actually think/feel about yourself
- To never, ever try to change someone – the best thing you can do is work on yourself
- Change your thoughts, change your life
Once I started becoming more aware of my thoughts, I realized how negative they were. I knew immediately that I had a choice: continue to complain, be negative and blame others for any bad that has happened in my life; or, I could replace those negative thoughts with positive ones, and know that I am in control of my life. I now know that I always have a choice for everything that happens to me: dwell on it, let it define me, and live in the past; or, I can accept it, look for the positives and move on. Why would I ever want to be anything less than happy?
I am human, and there are days that go by where I sink back into my old self. I dwell on negative thoughts, anger boils up in me and all I want to do is be alone. And I wallow in pity, yell at other drivers in my car, try to start fights with my boyfriend and judge others. And the million dollar question is: HOW do we stop that circle of anger, negativity, hopelessness? A quick 5-10 minutes of meditation for a few days. Reading/watching videos by Dr Wayne Dyer, Kyle Cease or Abraham Hicks always seem to bring me up and get me out of my funk. Doing something kind for someone. And the best one: catching my thoughts. And when I say catching my thoughts, I mean being aware of any thought that does not serve me, and instantly saying 1 thing I am grateful for. I swear, within 5 seconds your whole mood will change. You will smile… your thoughts will gravitate towards positivity… you will notice other people gravitating towards you, smiling at you, being kind to you.
Gratitude – it changes your thoughts, your perception, your life. So reflect back on the past year – what are you grateful for? Instead of focusing on what went wrong, focus on what went right. You can’t change anything, so accept, forgive and be grateful for every experience you have in life – You may not always be given what you want, but you will always be led you to where you need to be.